Tuesday, January 4, 2011
College Relationships
Why many (not all) college relationships fail to complete the course
My views
February 14 2008, 3:45 pm
XYZ Engg. College, TN.
Boy: I feel like am in love with you.
Girl: I too feel the same about you.
Boy: now is that a yes to my proposal??
Girl: YES da
(Background)Nadirthana thirananaaaa na
A year later,
Girl: you have changed a lot these days. I feel like you are not the guy whom I liked.
Boy: I too feel the same about you.
Girl: what do you mean by that??
Boy: let us better finish this.
Girl: now is that it?
Boy: hmm... yes.
The end
~ What appears to be the end may really be a new beginning (quoted with sarcasm). ~
A thing that is 2nd most common in Engg. Colleges (since am not aware of the trends in arts and science colleges) these days are the BREAK-UP. Sadly, the 1st place is taken by ARREAR .the question here is, why is it that these relationships don’t even stand for more than a year? The reason is our mind lets go of present things when it sees something better (simply called ‘MOVE ON’).isn’t this a kind of betrayal? Yes it is. Then why doesn’t our mind feel guilty about it? Because it justifies it.
Firstly, a mind gets bored off of the same person. Just like how it gets bored of a song after we hear it many times .secondly, when it sees something better (a person of better likeable qualities) it tries to move on. That is where the mind-heart conflict starts.
Mind: we need to move on.
Heart: that is betrayal.
Mind: it is not. I can justify it. I can give you umpteen incidents where that person hurt you.
Heart: but still…
Mind: what still? Can’t you see, that person doesn’t care anymore for you? That person is not spending more time with you.
Heart: that person has cared for me.
Mind: as though you didn’t care. Looks like even that person wants to move.
Heart: ….
And these conflicts are at its height when the relationship is going through a rough patch. Ultimately the mind justifies and wins in most cases. And if the heart wins, that means the relationship has passed through the rough patch successfully.
By relationships, I mean friendships too.
The solution is that mind needs a concrete bargain (reason) to remain devoted to a relationship. Every time the mind gives reason for a break up, the heart can give out this solid reason to continue that relationship.
But unfortunately, that bargain factor can happen only naturally.
Article by YOGESH TAWKER
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liked the conversation between the heart and the mind... !! good wrk !! keep it up !!
ReplyDeletemachi super da
ReplyDeleteCool man nice
ReplyDeletesuperb da..... i feel that its not actually love..just Limerence...
ReplyDeleteya... its actually limerence until the bargain factor happens .... once that happens ... then starts love <3.
ReplyDelete- yogaesh